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On February 10, 2026 @ 8:00 PM, we had the honor and privilege of sitting down with Minister Joy Richey for a deeply candid conversation about trauma responses, multiple grief experiences, and the unsolved murder of her son.
Her story was tender, honest, and filled with the kind of truth that many people carry silently but rarely speak aloud. Minister Joy reminded us that grief is not always neat, healing is not always immediate, and even faithful people can wrestle deeply with pain.
🌿 A Childhood Rooted in Faith and Family
Minister Joy shared that she was born in Atlanta, Georgia, and was the only girl in her family, surrounded by protective brothers who cared deeply for her.
She described her family as very close-knit, deeply rooted in church life, and committed to faith. Church was not just a weekly event — it was a way of life.
She laughed as she explained that growing up, they were in church constantly:
“Monday through Monday — with no days off.”
As a young girl and teenager, she served faithfully and became a praise and worship leader. Because of her family’s strong church involvement, she often missed activities other teenagers enjoyed, such as basketball games and social events.
She described herself as very naive to many things in life because of how sheltered she was raised.
Yet even in that structure, she carried the heart of a servant.
💭 When Strictness Led to Rebellion
Minister Joy also spoke honestly about a season when strictness at home became difficult for her to manage.
As a young woman, she ran away from home because her mother’s rules felt overwhelming. During that time, she stayed with other young women and entered a season she described as wild living.
Even while she was away, she said something important:
Her mother never stopped loving her.
That truth remained with her — love stayed present, even when choices were difficult.
🌸 Learning to Stop Running From Her Past
Years later, some of the same women she once lived with would continue to bring up her past whenever they saw her.
They would say things like:
- “I remember when you used to do this…”
- “I remember when you used to do that…”
Their words often felt like attempts to shame her for decisions she had already grown beyond.
For a long time, she admitted that seeing them made her uncomfortable enough that she would avoid them altogether.
But one day, something changed.
She finally stood in confidence and responded:
“Yes, I did it — and I’m not ashamed anymore.”
That moment of honesty and self-acceptance ended the insults.
Her story reminds us that when we stop hiding from our past, it often loses its power to wound us.
🕊️ A Family Marked by Deep Loss
Minister Joy shared the heartbreaking reality of repeated grief.
There were originally ten members in her immediate close-knit family — including her parents and siblings.
Today, only three remain.
She experienced loss after loss:
- Family members passing
- The death of loved ones
- Her mother and father dying only six months apart
She described how deeply those losses affected her, but nothing prepared her for what came next.
💔 The Unsolved Murder of Her Son
One of the most painful parts of the conversation came when Minister Joy spoke about her son, who was murdered at the age of 28 years old.
His death remains unsolved.
She described that moment with heartbreaking honesty:
“I could not take one more thing.”
After losing so many family members already, the death of her son felt unbearable.
She shared that she became angry with God — deeply angry.
Not because she stopped believing He existed, but because she could not understand why God did not spare her son’s life.
She openly admitted:
- She felt she had nothing left to give
- She would have traded her life for his
- She believed he had so much life ahead of him
- She struggled deeply with disappointment in God
She said one of the most devastating experiences a parent can face is:
Burying your child.
🌑 Walking Through a Dark Season
Minister Joy did not hide the darkness she entered after her son’s death.
She shared that grief led her down a painful road:
- She smoked
- She drank
- She walked away from God
Not because she no longer knew Him, but because she felt shattered.
She described feeling:
- Heartbroken
- Disappointed
- Emotionally exhausted
- Spiritually disconnected
In her own words, it felt as though:
Jesus Himself had failed her.
That kind of honesty matters because many grieving people silently wrestle with those same thoughts but are afraid to say them aloud.
🧠 Trauma Responses Few People Talk About
Minister Joy also explained how trauma affected her mind in practical ways.
One trauma response she noticed was:
- Difficulty completing thoughts
- Difficulty finishing tasks she once handled easily
- Mental fog during grief
This is something many grieving people experience but often do not understand.
Grief does not only affect emotions — it affects concentration, memory, energy, and daily functioning.
She emphasized something many people need to hear:
Take time to grieve properly.
Healing cannot be rushed.
🌼 What Her Story Teaches Us About Healing
Minister Joy’s testimony reminds us:
- Grief can shake faith, but it does not cancel faith
- Anger with God does not mean abandonment by God
- Trauma affects the body, mind, and spirit
- Healing often begins when we stop pretending we are okay
- The past loses power when we stop hiding from it
- Grief deserves time, honesty, and compassion
Even in seasons when God feels distant, He is still near to the brokenhearted.
✍🏽 Journal Prompts to Help You Process
Take quiet time and reflect:
- Have I given myself permission to grieve honestly?
- Is there pain in my life I have tried to hide instead of process?
- Have I blamed myself, God, or others for losses I still carry?
- What part of my past still makes me uncomfortable when mentioned?
- What does healing look like for me right now?
📖 Scripture & Truth Points From Minister Joy’s Story
Book of Psalms Psalm 34:18
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Book of Ecclesiastes Ecclesiastes 3:4
“A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.”
Book of Matthew Matthew 5:4
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.”
Book of Isaiah Isaiah 61:3
“To give them beauty for ashes…”
🌷 Takeaways for Healing
- Stop apologizing for grieving deeply
- Healing does not mean forgetting
- Trauma responses are real and deserve compassion
- You can still return to God after anger, disappointment, and distance
- Your story still has purpose, even after devastating loss
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💬 Share Your Thoughts
What part of Minister Joy’s story touched your heart?
If you have walked through grief, trauma, or loss, your words may help someone else feel less alone.
Please leave your thoughts, reflections, or encouragement in the comments.








